(Not a woman): my partner does not like receiving oral sex or other kinds of sex where she is mostly passive/receiving, because she doesn’t like feeling put on the spot and obligated to react.

If your partner has been not getting much from sex for a long time now, then she is also probably feeling a lot of pressure to change and behave right and react as expected which would be not pleasant for her.

Maybe ask her if she wants to play a game where she reads a book out loud (sexy book or bit sexy book) or play a cozy video game or some other activity where you get to enjoy yourself playing with her body for potentially a long time, and she has something else to pay attention to besides her own sexual performance? That would probably also go well with deep toys on low power as well.

Just, maybe avoid Call of Duty for this one. It has to be a lazy activity she’s doing. If her attention is successfully diverted 100% to the point the sex is an irritating distraction then that’s not any fun for anybody

That would be super awesome if navigation apps had profiles.

Like, when I’m driving my car I go the speed of traffic or maybe a little fast.

And when I’m driving my motorhome I go 65mph tops and really slow up hills.

But totally nobody does this. Even the RV Trip Wizard app (built around Here navigation) makes you choose between “I drive XXX speed on average” (ignoring actual speed limits and conditions, just assume constant speed) or just assume normal traffic.

Why can’t they recognize that different drivers drive differently???

I never asked for a credit score.

Unfortunately the credit agencies don’t have much reason to care what you want. There are people with money who asked for everybody to have a credit score

We pushed “the guide to getting it on” on our children at a relatively early age and invited them to discuss, which ensured they would never, ever, ever ask us anything about sex.

First I’m hearing this claim — what did Apple do to Bluetooth hearing aids? My mother has been using Bluetooth hearing aids for a couple years now that have nothing to do with Apple, are you saying Apple was standing in the way of that?

Hoarders gone wild?

11-year-old posts are fine. It’s not like pizza-cooking techniques become obsolete; if there’s old wisdom I still want it.

It’s just, you know, better not to quote shitposts, you know?

This thing where search engines only want new results is actually quite bad. I was looking for advice on exactly how to physically arrange the wiring and connections for some batteries in parallel. SearXNG gave me great results that were really helpful from electricians posting on old forums of varying age. DDG and Google only gave me bullshit SEO sites. But they were new!

I am personally impressed. That is a very bad year.

Is Pandora any better than Spotify at paying artists?

So what is actually the deal with CutCo? I know they’re a scam, everyone knows they’re a scam, but this one particular woman I know to be in general not a dummy, says her son spent the summer selling their knives once and made good money.

Was he just lying to her? How does the scam work?

Fanboys who will buy anything Apple… that is what “strength of the brand” /means/

Hey, I worked there!

“Though not health insurance”

Presumably part of the draw for living in downtown San Francisco is you don’t need to pay for the upkeep and feeding of a car

RVLiving

What did MEC do? I never heard of them before last month when I bought a backpack while visiting Canada.

Nobody is surprised that pollution centers on areas where people live, but showing how the pollution levels change hour-by-hour over a broad area is new and is a big deal.

What’s the consequences for getting caught? Even if they do detect you messing with their install image, what are they going to do about it besides tell you to put it back? Unless they’re going to make you go for psych visits over software removal, it seems to me you may as well just try it and find out.

I was talking about charging subscription fees for the instance login, not ads. I imagine if you wanted to fork lemmy and change it to inflict ads on your instance users you could do that, too.

I’m not thinking it’s an awesome business proposition right now, but if the fediverse gets big enough that users are willing to pay for Enterprise Reliability™ then I could see it happening.

It used to be that you could self-host your email server or use your cool friend’s server. But these days almost everybody uses commercial hosting. I see lemmy and mastodon going the same way if they grow enough.

This is an excellent case in point — for most instances there kind of just, somebody felt like making an instance and here it is. If you don’t know anybody specifically there’s not much reason to pick one over another. Maybe in future somebody will start up commercial instances like email providers and charge extra to have better reliability or a cool name or whatever but so far the instances seem to be pretty much run for the sake of neighborly kindness and fun.

Some instances have enough of a special interest that they get a distinct identity and reputation.

If you go look at what’s posted/hosted locally on the hexbear instance you’ll see it’s got a shit-ton of general trolling, shit-disturbing, lib-pwning, and general 4chan activity. If that’s your jam, you can sign up there and have a “local” feed with that kind of content, concentrated.

Meanwhile I’ve seen a number of calls to defederate from hexbear recently and if you sign up there you will not see or interact with whomever is posting from those instances who say no to trolling.