I’m in a small rural town in the south Puget Sound area of the Pacific Northwest in the good old USofA. I’ve only been here two years, having previously lived in OR, WI, and AZ. Back in OR there was a neat old western saloon building called “The Clubhouse” that housed a whole bunch of neat stuff. There was an arcade and a snack bar. A restaurant and barber shop on the top floor. Lots of big rooms that could be booked for events and stuff. It was free to hang out and socialize in and then food and drink etc cost money.

Since then, I have not experienced anything similarly and it makes me sad. Everything outside my house is monetized except the public library and who knows how long that will last.

I wish we could have a “community rec center” or something like that. It’s far too easy to remain disconnected from the communities in which we live and that’s super sad.

I wouldn’t mind a second place…

This has been a real problem around me, and it was getting worse before the pandemic. I have barely tried since, but as we are getting back to in-person events it will keep taunting me. I’m in the Boston MA USA area.

We have some spaces, like library rooms. But they often have constraints. One was that you had to be a tax-ID non-profit. It turns out we are for one of the groups I organize, but not all of them. So many of the more informal types are out of luck.

If you did qualify for the library room and get approved, you can’t have food. Or you can–but you have to use the library catering. This was like $200 for a dozen brownies.

And also: if you do make the cut, you cannot use it for regular meetings. So people can’t get used to going to the library on the third Thursday…or whatever.

There was a time when you could get a restaurant room, if you would spend some amount of money. But my groups have been full of people who don’t spend like that, or don’t drink like a sportsball crowd. So they start saying that you can’t take up that space anymore. And I get that–running a restaurant is hard and margins are thin. I don’t blame them. But we also don’t want to force people to buy an $8 beer.

There are some “community rooms” around. It’s very hard to figure out who has them, how to use them, and schedule them. And someone has to show up with the key. This failed for our neighborhood group several times.

I don’t know how to solve this in a place where real estate is high and there just aren’t rooms sitting around. I also think liability and cleaning weigh on this.

I don’t know how to solve this.

It’s not a thing around here (eastern Kentucky) that I’m aware of. Everybody is too spread out.

I think the city life with everyone being in a rush and overwhelmed with work has decreased the amount of third places a lot.

I still see some local caffés where people chill and the barista also sits with them at times and joins in the conversation, or people talking while they’re getting a haircut etc. but it’s mostly a bit older people, young people seem to keep to themselves more.

Then again, I’m quite introverted so it’s hard for me to engage in conversation to the point where I might not even notice that some place is a “third place”

I’ve known about the concept for a while but never really appreciated it after I stopped going to the gym. There’s like 7 houses around me being renovated, so to have some sanity I found a Starbucks nearby where I could spend a few hours a day. That’s my 3rd space for now.

My home state is pretty well known for having some thriving third places historically, but they are shrinking now. The city I currently live in lacks such places.