Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.
How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.
Someone else here said to spend time reflecting, but I found this only made things (edit)
worthworse for myself.My secret weapon is distraction, it’s the only thing that truly helps when I’m in a, uh, dangerous (for me) mood. Distracting yourself with things you love doing helps distancing yourself from the situation and makes you realise there is more to life than your ex.
No amount of talking about my feelings or reflecting on the relationship has helped me as much as listening to music, drawing, baking, exploring new online communities etc.
You know how people will say if you start lying to yourself that you’re great and happy, you’ll eventually start believing it? It’s similar to that, I think, you remind yourself often enough that there are other things you love and that make life worth living.
So, yeah, time + filling your life to the brim with things and activities you love.